Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Dealing with Life in hard times

Hi,

When we have everything going smooth, no one cares to give Life a break, a thought. In our good times, we seldom pray or remember the value of our near and dear ones. When we have everyone looking at us, we our self feel like a super human and at times behave rudely with others. These, could be a reason my friend why our destiny is sometimes against our desire. This could be a reason why we face hardships..

Now, a bigger problem arises when facing a problem, we panic. We shout, cry, hate, disbelief, stay alone and do not listen to any other person. We take decisions that we feel right, but don't give it a second thought, if it doesn't work we take another decision. Thus decision after decision, yet nothing happens.
There is a basic principle in driving school, if you are going downhill - put the car in the same gear as would be needed to go up-hill. there is another principle of life, whatever theory works for one task could be easily applied in another task. Thus, you should act in the manner you should have acted while you were in the good times of your life. You were carefull about your friends and family, you were giving time to yourself, taking advice & experience from other people before doing a new thing etc. But people don't do such things. They rather stay alone and make life of others tough too. It is a known fact that time is the biggest healer, so give time some time.

*If there is a loss of a loved one, you should become the support for others.
*If their is monetary loss, you will learn the value of money & saving. You should re-construct your plans to regain what you have lost.
*If you have separated from your partner, learn to listen to each other. Lack of interaction and understanding leads to separations.
These are not the only solutions, but are some actions that we take when we are having luck in our favor.

One thing you should give most importance is, give yourself more time. Being alone for some time & thinking positively helps a lot. Our Mind is the most powerful device we have, believe in it. Give it some time to think and find out solutions for you. When we strain our mind and think a lot, our Mind doesn't think of its own, but our problems give it suggestions and pressure. Our Mind works when it is free and relaxed. Even if you don't know how to meditate & Yog, still just sit alone and take deep breaths. Try not to think anything and let ideas flow in. Even if nothing works follow this routine for few days, preferably for ever, even after things start going your way. Give time to yourself and see how it helps you. Continue giving happiness to your loved ones by keeping a smiling face, their smile will give you energy to work. Bad time will take its time, it is already there, so why to make our self and others sad by it ! Smile during that time too, give yourself more time. Read, Listen to music, give time to your hobbies, to your friends. It will ease the problem and your relaxed mind will find better ways to deal with your problems.

Good time is a test of self control & humbleness, bad time is a test of our belief, knowledge & character. In short, Dealing your Life in your hard time in a better way teaches you to enjoy your good times in a better way. Happy Living.

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